By Donna Anderson:
“. . . Stout makes many important points related to sociopaths [used as a synonym for psychopaths]. Here are some that I highlighted:
1 . As a society, we are oblivious to the single most meaningful characteristic that divides the human race: the presence or absence of conscience.
2. What sociopaths want is to control others and win.
3. The difference between normal emotional functioning and sociopathy is almost too fantastic to grasp, so for the most part, we refuse to believe such a hollowness of emotion can exist.
4. The first sociopathic seduction technique is charm, and its power should not be underestimated.
5. Sociopaths study their targets, making it their business to learn how they can be manipulated.
6. Sociopaths have an uncanny sense of who will be vulnerable to sexual overtures.
7. People who do hideous things do not look like people who do hideous things. There is no “face of evil.”
8. The best clue of sociopathic behavior is the pity play, an appeal to your sympathy.
9. Sociopathy is the inability to process emotional experience, including love and caring.
10. Sociopathy is, at its very essence, ice-cold, like a dispassionate game of chess.
11. Sociopaths only feel the “primitive” emotions from immediate physical pain and pleasure, or from short-term frustrations and successes.
12. Narcissists can feel most emotions, but they are missing the ability to understand what other people are feeling.
13. Some theorists propose that North American culture, which values individualism, tends to foster the development of antisocial behavior.
14. When considering a new relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes: Three lies means you’re dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out.
15. If you find yourself pitying someone who consistently hurts you, the chances are close to 100% that you are dealing with a sociopath.” https://lovefraud.com/15-valuable-lessons-from-the-sociopath-next-door/