It seems to be a natural human trait that victims’ accounts are often discounted — ‘there are two sides to every story’, ‘the victim must have an ax to grind’, etc. Here everything was proven in court. The is a tale of the incredible lengths some psychopaths will go for their own entertainment. Lacking normal adult drives, they have to find other ways to occupy their time and their intelligence.
““Four days later she arrived saying her mum was an alcoholic and had beaten her – it was completely untrue.
“I took her to Plymouth University on the first day of term – and felt glad she had reached that point and was out of my family to be honest.
“But the police told me she spent all of her grant partying and didn’t go to lectures.
“Instead, she arrived back at my door and upped the lies about health issues until it got to the point where she needed 24-hour care.
“I was showering Elisa and her hair was falling out in clumps as you’d expect with someone having chemotherapy.
“I only found out later she was cutting her hair at the roots so it would fall out as I combed it.
“She told me she was spending eight hours a day at the Royal Cornwall Hospital in Truro – I would deliver her to the door in front of the renal unit in her pyjamas.
“She had her own locker at the hospital and staff gave her free food at three restaurants.
“Every day for five months, she would get changed into jeans and go on a jolly for the day.
“I was unaware she was getting money from her family to buy medical supplies so she could be covered in dressings and bandages when I arrived to bring her home at the end of the day.
“I would push her through the hospital in a wheelchair in her pyjamas and the cafe staff would say what a lovely girl she was – she duped everybody.
“She was incredibly clever and had no normal sense of conscience – it’s very scary.
“Me and my husband became estranged because of the pressure.
“He found solace in another woman and left and then five months later he wanted to come back.
“But the second we talked, Elisa would have a medical emergency. She managed to get between me and my four children and isolate me.
“She forged NHS medical records using the correct logos and signatures.
“She used two lap-tops and five mobile phones to pretend to be different people including a renal consultant.”
The court heard Elisa claimed to be so ill she began climbing into the lecturer’s bed for round-the-clock care.
The pair did not have a sexual relationship.
Sally told how Bianco created ‘John’, in an attempt to create an online romance.
Sally said: “She did try to push me towards a relationship of that nature with John – but he didn’t exist.
“It got to the point where she wanted me to send John intimate photos but I refused.
“She had a voice-changing device on her phone and used it to pretend to be John.
“John told me the reason his voice was quite high pitched was because he’d had throat cancer.
“But when I took a fancy to him and wanted to meet – she killed him off.
“We only found out everything was a charade because she made one fatal mistake.
“One day Elisa went to hospital and left a mobile phone at home. My husband Ralph phoned her dad who had no idea she was ill.
“Ralph said: ‘I’m sorry to tell you she is dying’ and her dad jumped in his car and drove to the hospital.
“Elisa phoned me screaming down the phone that her dad had abused her and we must not let him near her.
“I rushed to the hospital cardiology unit where she said she was having treatment – but when I went into the ward they knew nothing about her.
“I then went to the renal unit and they knew nothing – even though she was supposedly dying.
“She put on an amazing, terrifying act.
“Elisa had lost two stone in weight – presumably because of the pressure of juggling so many balls in the air.
“Nobody doubted the tumour on her kidney was killing her.
“She even used a little plastic bottle hidden under her clothes to make a noise like cracked ribs.
“She would use the trick in front of you and writhe in agony. Elisa even made a bloody bucket list.
“She was very interested in penguins. We went to London Zoo where we had a private viewing of the penguins – she had fluffy penguins everywhere.
“Then we went to visit her sister who was six months pregnant – and devastated when Elisa told her she was dying.
“I organised a 21st birthday party for her where all her friends were in tears because they thought it was her last.
“She wore some repulsive fairy wings and a tiara and said she was going to heaven.
“About 25 people turned up for the party and because Bianca said she couldn’t walk she sat on a sofa in the garden because she wanted to be a princess like Elsa from Frozen.
“It’s just sick, sick, sick.
“I got compassionate leave from work to look after her but I didn’t go back afterwards because I was not capable of it.
“When I looked at that girl in the dock I still couldn’t comprehend it was all a pack of lies.
“But all the tests on her mental condition came back negative.
“I’m now just a completely different person. I’m divorced from my husband and this has totally finished my life as I know it.
“I was a well paid lecturer for ten years but now I’ve lost my career.
“I spent thousands on Bianca and treated her like a daughter. My children are far more angry and hurt than I am.”
In a victim impact statement given to court, she added: “To discover this entire and person and relationship to be a fraud, just a young girl playing, was devastating and embarrassing to a level I find so hard to put into words.”
Sally has sold her home and moved to the South of France.” http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/dad-lying-student-jailed-wrecking-7055103
Before I was aware of interacting with psychopaths I did notice individuals who were abnormally successful in making others feel sorry for them. I didn’t know what it meant, I didn’t even know the phrase ‘pity play’. Other possible psychopathic traits that I (and others) noticed were astronomical arrogance, off the charts self satisfaction (both of these I now believe are biological), particular odd eyes/appearances, seeming complete lack of morality, and high manipulative ability (extreme Machiavellianism). Sometimes friends and I would discuss individuals with these traits, we just didn’t know what it meant. Sally had enough clues, she just couldn’t put it all together — I doubt if the word psychopath ever crossed her mind.
Sadly no one else in this story ever used the word psychopath either, not the judge, the journalists, or even the commenters.
Back to the possible psychopathic traits that the unknowing do notice. There are many, many of them. All the way to individuals who refuse to flush toilets — this is part of their arrested development, the contents are precious parts of themselves, or to traits that should only be considered if there are other possible psychopathic traits present — males who cook, for example. There are many normal men who like to cook, but it seems to me that close to a 100% of psychopathic males do. Few, if any, of these traits are sufficient or necessary for a determination (I don’t like the word diagnosis). They are more like alerts.