Well, . . . it ain’t easy. It depends mostly on whether the company has a hr department run by actual sociopaths/psychopaths. Sociopaths/psychopaths love being in hr, they get to play puppet master. If that’s not the case there’s still the question of how to overcome the hr reps’ assumed-similarity/assumed-normalcy bias — facts can overcome a bias or syndrome but will just bounce off an assumed-similarity psychotic (one should keep in mind that that assumed-similarity comes in all flavors: bias, syndrome, disorder, psychosis — incidentally the same is true for naive prey response syndrome). See https://pathwhisperer.info/2015/11/02/assumed-similarity-bias/, https://pathwhisperer.info/2011/02/11/a-search-today-i-am-the-target-of-a-sociopathic-bully-what-do-i-do/.
My experience with psychopathic harassment was while working for UBS, which I consider to have a psychopathic history (as essentially Nazi bankers during WWII and the later holocaust gold scandal), psychopaths in management, psychopaths in human resources. Actually I consider UBS to be psychopathic entity. I should have left early on.
Well, now that the summer has ended emotionally speaking (Labor Day weekend), it’s time for PW to get back to work and give my fans what they come here for . . . . What’s that? Excuse me? . . . Uh, . . . OK, it’s time for PW to give my fan what he or she comes for. So starting with recent searches, in no particular order:
what is reverse blackmail
Blackmail always presents the opportunity of reverse blackmail, namely, ‘if you do what you threaten, then I’ll have you jailed for blackmail, your choice.’ It’s an ‘out cooling’ strategy. You can’t pull it off if you are playing however. You need to really believe you can do it, so practice etc. Otherwise a sociopath will see right through the attempt.
does blackmail lead to further blackmail
Absolutely, often a lifetime of blackmail. Sometimes it seems someone will accede to a blackmail demand as a way to preserve their world and their life as they know it — but then the blackmailer will essentially move in and take over their life. No sociopath will ever be bound by a promise of ‘do this and then you’re free.’ That’s why it is worth fighting the initial blackmail attempt tooth and nail (reverse blackmail, building a harassment case, getting a concealed carry permit, etc.).
i loaned a sociopath money. what do i do?
First stop loaning them more money. You will never get your original money back unless you are in a position of power over them. Most people simply have to wave goodbye to the loaned money. Since sociopaths are geniuses at inciting pity, probably 95%+ have loaned money to one at some point, I certainly have.
are sociopaths immature
Absolutely and in every way. Sociopathy is an arrested development syndrome.
why narcissist’s false self is so rigid
The need to forever keep at bay the wolf at the door — self hate and self loathing. (I assume the searcher is asking about actual narcissists, not using the term as a synonym for sociopathy/psychopathy.)
can a sociopath love his parents?
That’s an interesting question. It seems to depend on the ‘dose’ of sociopathy. Male sociopaths seem to relate to their fathers.
can tsa recognize a psychopath
Not unless the TSA agent is a psychopath or the rare normal who ‘can see’ psychopaths.
do sociopaths know they are evil
Not all are. Those who are know they are, in my opinion.
how does a sociopath chose his victims
It doesn’t necessarily make sense anywhere outside of that particular sociopath’s mind. Third parties usually assume there is a reason, a history and two sides to a story — none of which are necessarily true in these situations. Sometimes though they will seek to protect a fellow sociopath by targeting that sociopath’s target or cause of trouble. This opens up the subject of sociopathic gang stalking which is a huge problem.
do sociopaths run together
Absolutely. Sociopaths vary in their ability to manage in the normal world (the phrase often used it that they are as strangers in a strange land). They will cluster around those more able.
was gaetan dugas a sociopath
Yes, the hundreds (thousands?) of lovers, the lack of concern about spreading the mysterious disease. Flight steward/attendant is a great job for sociopaths — seeing the world, meeting many people, going to bed with them, avoiding boredom.
Why the AIDS epidemic hasn’t educated the public to the presence of sociopaths I will never understand.
how sociopath gets you to question your sanity
It’s called gaslighting. They will spend enormous time and effort in these pursuits, it makes them feel superior. More to the point of the question, sensing vulnerabilities and entry points to an individual’s psyche is a trait of sociopaths (inborn, imo).
why does hr always support the sociopath?
Before bashing HR let’s consider more innocuous explanations. Most people assume every story has two sides and a rational explanation — assuming these things will always protect a sociopath. Gays, including gay HR reps, will almost always give the benefit of the doubt to sociopaths as co-alternate sexuality community members (with the exception of those who have experienced sociopathic betrayal). Moving on — many people join HR for the pleasure of lying and manipulating others — so there is a high percentage of actual sociopaths, children of sociopaths, and those who admire sociopathic techniques (such as Machiavellian strategies) in the field.
can you blackmail a sociopath
I assume the searcher means can you blackmail a sociopath about being a sociopath. If you can you are probably doing so already, no need to spell it out. It depends on many things such as where the individual sociopath is on the arrogance/I never lose/consequences-schmonsequences/i’m a Mutant-X superman/why-oh-why are people born so stupid continuums. Also how can you blackmail someone who doesn’t understand cause and effect or is stuck in a four year old’s thinking patterns (Newt Gingrich says there is a four year old inside of him — ‘everyday he wakes up and knows that there is a cookie waiting for him somewhere, his job is to find it’).
am i safe if i am a target of a sister who is a psychopath
Personally I would put as much physical distance between myself and her as possible. Do not maintain a relationship for ‘the sake of the family.’ Try to educate your loved ones about psychopathy (which can be very hard to do).
what do sociopaths want
Hmmm. Proof that their defect is a sign of superiority? Outside support of their innate arrogance? Revenge on the emotionally alive?
psychopaths fake cry
Watch their crying sequence, they get it all wrong. Watch a vet mourn for fallen comrades, usually the chin starts trembling, they lose control of their voice, they turn away, they cry. Psychopathic fake crying comes across like a badly programmed robot’s efforts. Also, there is often a feeling that the psychopath is watching through their fingers to judge the effect and/or is contemptuous of onlookers (pay attention to all emotional responses when dealing with possible psychopaths).
My instincts tell me there’s something terribly wrong here with the Petit story. Of course, my instincts could be wrong. However, I’ve also seen a few videos backing the swiftest possible execution of the perps found guilty (who by all accounts are total monsters) of murdering the Petit family. The individuals speaking in these videos also raised my suspicions as possible sociopaths — the question is, why do these third parties care so much about disposing of these found guilty perps?
Banking giant UBS has agreed to pay $780 million and turn over once-secret Swiss banking records to settle allegations it conspired to defraud the U.S. government of taxes owed by big clients.
. . . UBS executives helped U.S. taxpayers open new accounts in the names of sham entities.
Prosecutors contend that UBS executives used encrypted software and other counter-surveillance techniques to prevent anyone from detecting that they were actively marketing such Swiss bank secrecy — and tax evasion — to American taxpayers.
The clients, in turn, filed false tax returns that omitted the income they earned in their Swiss accounts, according to the court papers.
Federal officials said they had pulled aside a veil of secrecy that hid a corrupt international banking practice.
“This was not a mere compliance oversight, but rather a knowing crime motivated by greed and disrespect for the law,” said Alexander Acosta, U.S. attorney for southern Florida.
In 2006 and 2007 UBS was having everyone brush up on their “‘know your customer’ (KYC) skills and the identification of new trends in suspicious behavior” — even operations staff (on the computer side in my case). We had to “undertake regular training courses, [. . .] in the form of on-line training” or compliance modules as they were called. These had absolutely zero to do with our jobs, we never dealt with clients, let alone their money, so we used to call in banker friends to help us with the online tests. (Above quotes from “Contributing to society, Preventing money laundering, corruption and terrorist financing,” http://www.ubs.com/1/e/about/corporate_responsibility/society/fighting_money_laundering.html. OOPSIE, that page has been deleted! OK, here’s another one: http://www.ubs.com/1/e/polandcareers/ourcultureandvalues/corporate_responsibility/society/fighting_money_laundering.html. Note that this page is under the heading, Our Culture and Values — one trait of the truly advanced, truly high ranking sociopathic mind is the depth and breadth of its hypocrisy. Criticizing a sociopath for being hypocritical is like criticizing a fish for swimming — it’s simply their nature.)
It’s apparent now what the strategy was — window dressing. UBS was putting on a big show of complying with anti-money laundering laws by having all firm personnel be trained in recognizing it — all the while carrying out that very thing through encrypted software and other counter-surveillance techniques (according to the U.S. DOJ).
Now what kind of mind would think a transparent ruse like this would accomplish anything? Perhaps an arrogant, childish sociopathic mind. Obviously not every crook is a sociopath. However, in my opinion, sociopathy is the wind in the sails of evil and corruption. The normally corrupt are forever fighting their consciences, following the conscienceless, the sociopaths, is a relief to them.
Unfortunately it seems UBS is still the same bank that accepted holocaust gold and sought to deprive the heirs of concentration camp victims their rightful funds. As late as 1997 bank management thought they could order underlings to destroy Nazi-era banking records. Fortunately, Christopher Meili, a security guard, turned them in. (For more information: “‘Nazi gold’ settlement mixed intangibles with money,” http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/views/y/1998/08/hirsch.nazigold.aug21/; Swiss Banks and World War II, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Banking_in_Switzerland.)
Suggesting to a sociopathic banker that accepting gold collected from the teeth of concentration camp victims was wrong or the same to an athlete gaining the top of the podium through fraud would only convince the sociopath that the questioner was the one with the problem. Their code: you call it cheating, I call it winning. If the point was to amass gold, the source, to a sociopath, would be utterly of no concern.
From some of the searches that find this blog, it’s evident that people out there are wrestling with very difficult sociopathic problems.
My son is a sociopath, what do I do? This was one recent search. The best I can do is send the searcher over to the Lovefraud blog (see link to the right) where a number of posters have been in this position.
One thing I can say is that as a sociopathic son enters puberty it is essential to protect younger siblings, particularly sisters but also brothers (sociopaths know only friction orgasms, they are essentially pansexual). It would be nothing to most sociopaths to get a sister drunk and share her with his buddies.
Secondly, apparently some of the children dropped off in Nebraska were sociopathic. If institutionalization or this route is taken I think I would (I’m thinking out loud, trying to feel my way through this) suggest staying in contact with the child. Sociopaths fully experience most of the normal prepubescent emotions of childhood I believe. Abandonment would be very real to them, not to mention also to the parents (who no doubt would be in a terrible bind). Contact would be better for the soul of the sociopath (such as it is) and the parents. Total abandonment would leave a sociopathic child angrier and more dangerous. I believe the argument could be made that Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer were serial killers due to never having bonded as infants (Ted Bundy was left in the hospital for months with his mother hesitant to keep him as I recall) not due to their inherent sociopathy, which only made them more skillful at it. Thus their murderously angry infant selves became a permanent part of their psyches, coming forth to use an adult’s capabilities and intelligence together with a sociopath’s manipulativeness and cunning to carry out their murders.
How to get a sociopath fired? My advice would be to focus strictly on the malfeasance. In my opinion it is very difficult to persuade someone of another’s sociopathy. It seems that everyone thinks they are a perfect judge of such matters, even if they have never heard of a sociopath, or think they have never met one, or expect never to meet one in their lifetime.
If the problem is sociopathic workplace bullying or harassment then there are totally different problems. Are any managers devotees of the sociopath, lovers, or blackmailed lovers? Nobody wants to leave a job or co-workers they like but sociopathic bullying is very detrimental to the victim. In my experience management and HR are usually of no help. If you stay and fight, in my opinion, you need to get as vicious as possible as quickly as possible (maybe not, if you take the bull by the horns you may get gored). Furthermore if a friend is seduced and blackmailed by a sociopathic enemy, then your friend is your enemy. The situation can get very ugly, very fast.
To those who say that such things could never happen in their world I beg to differ. ‘See no evil, a preyer’s prayer’ — to borrow a phrase. Think what a shield to the corrupt the response of “Oh, that just can’t be happening” is. Or to those who say they have no enemies, ‘I’m a nice person why should I have enemies.’ I’m afraid you don’t understand sociopathic motivations. The pick of a target for sociopathic workplace bullying may make no sense anywhere other than in the mind of a particular sociopath.
Without a professional and ethical management and HR department there are really no good options. While at UBS, I actually proposed creating an office to deal with sociopathic employees but was not taken up on it (https://pathwhisperer.wordpress.com/proposal-to-ubs-upper-management/).
Sociopathic employee and HR. Ha, ha, ha. What does HR stand for? Human Resources. One would assume that HR’s job would be to take care of the human resources of a company, to see that their rights are respected in terms of both company policy and labor law. Wrong. In my experience HR’s job is to assist management in exploiting the workforce. The term, Human Resources, is often merely a 180 degree lie. Such lies are a great favorite of sociopaths so many sociopaths go into the field themselves, in my experience. I have, more than once, seen sociopathic HR reps side with sociopathic employees, even criminal or mentally ill ones.
How to beat a sociopath in court? Another hard one. Occasionally they defeat themselves, Thomas Capano and Wayne Williams insisted on testifying on their own behalf driven by their high self regard and pathological optimism. In general I believe there is a vast problem of sociopathic judges, prosecutors and even defense attorneys siding with a sociopathic pleader even if this goes against the law or even the interests of a client.
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