From Lovefraud, O.N. Ward:
“Chapter 3: Sociopath Math
I can almost hear the collective cacophony. “Onna! That can’t be the whole story. There has to be something more to it. There are always two sides.”
In an attempt to be fair and to give everyone involved the benefit of the doubt, we tend to discount and dismiss malicious, destructive behavior. Sociopaths count on this. Contrary to the popular saying, there are not always two valid sides to any story (and it would not surprise me if it was a sociopath who first planted this idea in our collective unconscious). Are there two sides to the story of Bernie Madoff’s multi-billion dollar Ponzi scheme? Does the heart-breaking story of Laci Peterson and her unborn son’s 2002 Christmas-time murder at the hands of her philandering husband Scott have two sides? What about the conviction of ex-policeman Drew Peterson for murdering his third wife—are there two sides to that story? (His fourth wife has been missing since 2007.) It is critical to realize that there does not have to be more to the story of Paul and Jenny—not if Paul is a sociopath.
Since we have empathy and a conscience, it is almost impossible for us to imagine that there are people, like Paul, who are devoid of both. Yet, there are—lots of them. To help silence those voices in your head that want to give Paul a legitimate side to the story, I would like to give you a crash course in what I call sociopath math.” http://www.lovefraud.com/2016/04/28/sociopaths-count-on-you-getting-the-benefit-of-the-doubt/
Available from Amazon: “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned”
A phrase I’ve heard directly from psychopaths (I use the words synonymously): ‘Go ahead and tell, no one will believe you anyway’. That’s often true. It’s called assumed similarity bias/assumed normalcy bias (https://pathwhisperer.info/2015/11/02/assumed-similarity-bias/).