Quoting Liberty from Lies quoting Kathy Krajco:
One reason why the victims don’t face facts about a narcissist is because we don’t want to face the fact that we mean nothing to them. The ego doesn’t want to know that. For, being valued by another at absolute zero is a degrading value judgement.
When this is someone in your family, that fact is traumatic. We think about how much we have loved them, how often we have stuck up for them, how many times in the past we sacrificed for them. And here all along they cared NOTHING for us in return!
They just fed off us like a parasite, taking us for a sap.
This is why denial is so dangerous. Facing facts, no matter how unpleasant, is better. Because when you do address the issue in your mind, you see who is degraded by the narcissist’s refusal to relate humanly to human beings.
Not the human beings, that’s for sure.
Knowing that makes you able to accept the truth about them. And when you accept the truth about them, you break the cycle of abuse.
Kathy Krajco [who passed away unexpectedly and suddenly]
What Kathy termed narcissists I would term sociopaths (or psychopaths).
For a normal human being at the end of a relationship with a Demonic Sociopath Entity, one of the most startling aspects/horrors of them ending a relationship with you is how they can literally switch you off as if you never existed.
One of the reasons that narcissists are often confused with/considered sociopaths is that they can do the above also. Without going into it here, I think narcissism is a deep psychological choice but sociopathy is an alternate genetic arrangement.
I often feel I should be spending more time posting, but as you can see there is a lot out there.