This search just came in. It would seem that this searcher has decided that fair game strategies are fair play when dealing with psychopaths. This person seems to think that their particular conflict with a particular psychopathic individual calls for a ‘do unto others before they do unto you’ approach. That is a strategy that psychopaths use themselves (all the time), fair game strategies also. But things could get real rough, real fast. I hope the searcher has thought it through carefully and paid attention to details.
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It seems to be a natural human trait that victims’ accounts are often discounted — ‘there are two sides to every story’, ‘the victim must have an ax to grind’, etc. Here everything was proven in court. The is a tale of the incredible lengths some psychopaths will go for their own entertainment. Lacking normal adult drives, they have to find other ways to occupy their time and their intelligence.
“A SCHEMING student who faked terminal cancer has been jailed for ruining her female lecturer’s life – costing the victim her marriage, home and job.
Devious Elisa Bianco, 22, spun a web of lies to manipulate Sally Rettallack “like a cuckoo in the nest”, a judge said.” . . .
Judge Christopher Harvey Clark QC said: “It is a strange but very disturbing case.
“I can truthfully say it is the most extraordinary case I have had to deal with in a long time.
“You were like an uninvited cuckoo fledgling in the nest of a willow warbler – an unexpected offspring demanding to receive constant attention.”” http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/6817061/Scheming-student-faked-terminal-cancer-and-cost-her-college-tutor-her-marriage-home-and-job.html
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““Four days later she arrived saying her mum was an alcoholic and had beaten her – it was completely untrue.
“I took her to Plymouth University on the first day of term – and felt glad she had reached that point and was out of my family to be honest.
“But the police told me she spent all of her grant partying and didn’t go to lectures.
“Instead, she arrived back at my door and upped the lies about health issues until it got to the point where she needed 24-hour care.
“I was showering Elisa and her hair was falling out in clumps as you’d expect with someone having chemotherapy.
“I only found out later she was cutting her hair at the roots so it would fall out as I combed it.
“She told me she was spending eight hours a day at the Royal Cornwall Hospital in Truro – I would deliver her to the door in front of the renal unit in her pyjamas.
“She had her own locker at the hospital and staff gave her free food at three restaurants.
“Every day for five months, she would get changed into jeans and go on a jolly for the day.
“I was unaware she was getting money from her family to buy medical supplies so she could be covered in dressings and bandages when I arrived to bring her home at the end of the day.
“I would push her through the hospital in a wheelchair in her pyjamas and the cafe staff would say what a lovely girl she was – she duped everybody.
“She was incredibly clever and had no normal sense of conscience – it’s very scary.
“Me and my husband became estranged because of the pressure.
“He found solace in another woman and left and then five months later he wanted to come back.
“But the second we talked, Elisa would have a medical emergency. She managed to get between me and my four children and isolate me.
“She forged NHS medical records using the correct logos and signatures.
“She used two lap-tops and five mobile phones to pretend to be different people including a renal consultant.”
The court heard Elisa claimed to be so ill she began climbing into the lecturer’s bed for round-the-clock care.
The pair did not have a sexual relationship.
Sally told how Bianco created ‘John’, in an attempt to create an online romance.
Sally said: “She did try to push me towards a relationship of that nature with John – but he didn’t exist.
“It got to the point where she wanted me to send John intimate photos but I refused.
“She had a voice-changing device on her phone and used it to pretend to be John.
“John told me the reason his voice was quite high pitched was because he’d had throat cancer.
“But when I took a fancy to him and wanted to meet – she killed him off.
“We only found out everything was a charade because she made one fatal mistake.
“One day Elisa went to hospital and left a mobile phone at home. My husband Ralph phoned her dad who had no idea she was ill.
“Ralph said: ‘I’m sorry to tell you she is dying’ and her dad jumped in his car and drove to the hospital.
“Elisa phoned me screaming down the phone that her dad had abused her and we must not let him near her.
“I rushed to the hospital cardiology unit where she said she was having treatment – but when I went into the ward they knew nothing about her.
“I then went to the renal unit and they knew nothing – even though she was supposedly dying.
“She put on an amazing, terrifying act.
“Elisa had lost two stone in weight – presumably because of the pressure of juggling so many balls in the air.
“Nobody doubted the tumour on her kidney was killing her.
“She even used a little plastic bottle hidden under her clothes to make a noise like cracked ribs.
“She would use the trick in front of you and writhe in agony. Elisa even made a bloody bucket list.
“She was very interested in penguins. We went to London Zoo where we had a private viewing of the penguins – she had fluffy penguins everywhere.
“Then we went to visit her sister who was six months pregnant – and devastated when Elisa told her she was dying.
“I organised a 21st birthday party for her where all her friends were in tears because they thought it was her last.
“She wore some repulsive fairy wings and a tiara and said she was going to heaven.
“About 25 people turned up for the party and because Bianca said she couldn’t walk she sat on a sofa in the garden because she wanted to be a princess like Elsa from Frozen.
“It’s just sick, sick, sick.
“I got compassionate leave from work to look after her but I didn’t go back afterwards because I was not capable of it.
“When I looked at that girl in the dock I still couldn’t comprehend it was all a pack of lies.
“But all the tests on her mental condition came back negative.
“I’m now just a completely different person. I’m divorced from my husband and this has totally finished my life as I know it.
“I was a well paid lecturer for ten years but now I’ve lost my career.
“I spent thousands on Bianca and treated her like a daughter. My children are far more angry and hurt than I am.”
In a victim impact statement given to court, she added: “To discover this entire and person and relationship to be a fraud, just a young girl playing, was devastating and embarrassing to a level I find so hard to put into words.”
Sally has sold her home and moved to the South of France.” http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/dad-lying-student-jailed-wrecking-7055103
Before I was aware of interacting with psychopaths I did notice individuals who were abnormally successful in making others feel sorry for them. I didn’t know what it meant, I didn’t even know the phrase ‘pity play’. Other possible psychopathic traits that I (and others) noticed were astronomical arrogance, off the charts self satisfaction (both of these I now believe are biological), particular odd eyes/appearances, seeming complete lack of morality, and high manipulative ability (extreme Machiavellianism). Sometimes friends and I would discuss individuals with these traits, we just didn’t know what it meant. Sally had enough clues, she just couldn’t put it all together — I doubt if the word psychopath ever crossed her mind.
Sadly no one else in this story ever used the word psychopath either, not the judge, the journalists, or even the commenters.
Back to the possible psychopathic traits that the unknowing do notice. There are many, many of them. All the way to individuals who refuse to flush toilets — this is part of their arrested development, the contents are precious parts of themselves, or to traits that should only be considered if there are other possible psychopathic traits present — males who cook, for example. There are many normal men who like to cook, but it seems to me that close to a 100% of psychopathic males do. Few, if any, of these traits are sufficient or necessary for a determination (I don’t like the word diagnosis). They are more like alerts.
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It depends. Mostly on how seriously the sociopath takes the threat from the bosses (following the dictionaries and the scientific literature I use the words sociopath and psychopath as being synonymous). Might clean up his act immediately. Or might get more devious.
I once was running an evening shift at a presentation center without having hiring and firing powers. A sociopathic employee came to realize this and simply stopped doing his fair share of work and paid my requests no mind. Upon being upbraided by our boss, he instantaneously became my best friend and started working hard again.
But that wasn’t a harassment situation. Sociopaths who go in for harassment and puppet master manipulations seem to really love doing so.
Hopefully in this situation, the bosses won’t give him/her more than one chance. If they were truly aware of the individual’s character they should have fired him immediately, leopards don’t change their spots.
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“Rehtaeh Parsons, Canadian Girl, Dies After Suicide Attempt; Parents Allege She Was Raped By 4 BoysA 17-year-old Canadian girl died Sunday following a suicide attempt last week. The family of Rehtaeh Parsons said that their daughter never recovered from an alleged rape by four teenage boys in November 2011 that left her deeply depressed and rejected by her community.
Placed on life support last Thursday at a local hospital, Rehtaeh Parsons died on April 7 after her family made the decision to take her off the life support.
In a Facebook memorial page, the girl’s mother, Leah Parsons, wrote that Rehtaeh had been shunned and harassed after one of the boys allegedly involved in the rape took a picture of the incident [while she was leaning out a window vomiting, certainly a sign that she not only had no interest but was drunk past the point of any possible consent – PW] and distributed it to their “school and community, where it quickly went viral.”
“Rehtaeh is gone today because of the four boys that thought that raping a 15-year-old girl was okay, and to distribute a photo to ruin her spirit and reputation would be fun,” Parsons wrote.
According to Canadian news outlet CBC, the alleged sexual assault happened at a small gathering at which teenagers consumed alcohol. One of the boys in attendance reportedly took a photo of another boy having sex with Rehtaeh Parsons and sent it to friends.
Gawker writes that the bullying got so bad after the photo circulated that the family was forced to relocate.
“She was never left alone. She had to leave the community. Her friends turned against her. People harassed her. Boys she didn’t know started texting her and Facebooking her asking her to have sex with them. It just never stopped,” Leah Parsons told the CBC.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/09/rehtaeh-parsons-girl-dies-suicide-rape-canada_n_3045033.html
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“Police concluded there were no grounds to charge the four boys after a year-long investigation, according to the CBC.
Royal Canadian Mounted Police Cpl. Scott MacRae said the investigation was completed in consultation with prosecutors and said there was insufficient evidence to proceed with charges, the network reported. Nova Scotia Justice Minister Ross Landry said he has no plans to review the case because he has no reason to doubt the integrity of the police investigation.” http://www.cbsnews.com/news/rehtaeh-parsons-canada-teen-kills-herself-after-rape-and-bullying-mother-says/ [PW: MacRae and Landry should be required to prove they are not psychopaths. I recall a psychopathic judge letting a rapist off with a slap on the wrist, saying rape (in general) amounted to little more than a slight jostling and bruising. For psychopaths there’s no ‘soul involvement’ in sex / no full adult psychological ‘echoing through the psyche’ aspect to it (more commonly referred to as romantic love) / no emotional intimacy.]
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“While she was out the window the two males debated who would go first (this we know from a letter sent to Rehtaeh’s mother from one of the youth following Rehtaeh’s death). When the second male raped her he asked for a photo to be taken. He smiled for the picture and gave a thumbs up. This photo was shared and spread to hundreds of students throughout the Halifax school district.” http://glencanning.com/rehtaeh-parsons/ [This is her father’s website.]
I became acquainted with the criminal tragedy that befell the Parson family from the documentary, No Place to Hide, on rt.com. https://www.rt.com/shows/documentary/321257-no-place-to-hide/
Many aspects just scream of psychopathic involvement and motives. Complete with a photograph of the crime. We’ve seen this in other rapes and in attacks on the homeless. This is consistent with psychopaths’ arrested development, they don’t have the personality development to be self referential (the degree varies widely). They need outside attestation to confirm the purpose of the crime, ‘Wow, that was really wicked, look how you beat, humiliated, etc. the vic’.
In my opinion, the main causes of suicide in young people are, first, the false belief that the sexes are the same psychologically and emotionally and act on the same motives, and, second, being blindsided by psychopathic evil through actions of psychopaths that they didn’t even know existed. Both befell Rehtaeh.
I don’t think the attack was a spur of the moment, a taking advantage of opportunities event. I suspect they had a scenario that they were following. Young male groupings with a rape culture (such as some fraternities, sports clubs, gangs, schools, etc.) have histories of actions, details of which are handed down over the generations of students. They sit around and compare stories, details and ideas for future attacks, just like con artists and career criminals. Elements of the possible scenario here include having a female neutral party, a “girlfriend”, issue the initial invite, bringing Rehtaeh to the planned scene of the crime, and then leaving. Having only two males there at first, with the other two showing up later. Perhaps one of the first two was a disarming psychopathic charmer putting her at ease. The use of alcohol, here vodka, which is close to tasteless in drinks, the inexperienced would have very little idea how fast they could get drunk and lose the capability of self protection. It’s easy to see why they picked Rehtaeh Parsons, she was happy and innocent — two qualities that psychopaths hate, since they can never experience either.
The bullying and harassment went even further. I believe it’s conscious purpose was in fact murder by suicide. Certainly to further their ‘jollies.’ Psychopaths love ‘kicking dogs when they’re down’ — witness the attacks on homeless individuals ‘just for fun’.
After her suicide and the ‘bad publicity’ for the four boys, one of them, it seems, went to social media to malign her memory and threaten her family (under the name iamkarma902). This is classic psychopathy. Psychopaths believe they are fully entitled to do whatever they can get away with and believe that being called on their actions afterwards is hideously unfair.
“On one hand it [iamkarma902] could have been the male in the photo giving a thumbs up and smiling as he rapes Rehtaeh. It was his YouTube account the threat was associated with and the IP went to his house, but was he the one who typed it? Maybe? Maybe not?” http://glencanning.com/2015/06/death-threat-charges-dropped/
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“Daniel Wozniak Murders: Killer Had a Larger-Than-Life Personality, Friends Say
In the late afternoon of May 21, 2010, Juri “Julie” Kibuishi started getting texts from her friend Sam Herr, who seemed distraught and needed to talk to someone. Kibuishi, who had been tutoring Herr in his community college courses, happily agreed to meet up with the 26-year-old Afghanistan war veteran later that night.
“Please don’t tell anyone. Please,” he wrote.
“You can trust me,” Kibuishi responded. “I promise. I am not going to say anything. I promise. Pinkie promise.”
Kibuishi, 23, had no idea she was being set up. The man she thought was Herr was actually Daniel Wozniak, Herr’s neighbor at the Camden Village apartment complex in Costa Mesa, California.
Wozniak, a onetime up-and-coming local theater actor who was starring in the musical Nine, had murdered Herr just hours earlier by luring him into the attic of an empty theater on the Joint Forces Training Base in Los Alamitos, California, where he fatally shot him twice in the head with a .38-caliber semiautomatic pistol.
His goal: to clean out Herr’s $50,000 savings so he could pay for his upcoming wedding to his actress fiancée Rachel Buffett.
Once at Herr’s apartment, Wozniak lured an unsuspecting Kibuishi, a college student studying fashion, into Herr’s bedroom and then shot her twice in the head before staging the crime scene to make it look like Herr had sexually assaulted her.
“He said he tried to orchestrate it to try to make it look like it was Sam who had [killed Julie] out of a rage of jealousy,” Det. Michael Delgadillo said in grand jury testimony.
Police zeroed in on Wozniak after he pocketed money from Herr’s bank account and arrested him at his bachelor party just two days before his wedding.” http://www.people.com/article/daniel-wozniak-murders-killer-had-larger-than-life-personality
His fiancee, Rachel Buffett, said “It was like the person I loved never really existed.” (It should be noted that she has been charged as an accessory after the fact, though no evidence has been released. We’ll see.) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/12/rachel-buffett-actress_n_2286236.html
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Recently I turned on my cellphone after a few days of nonuse, to find a few messages that had arrived in the meantime had been opened. I could not have done this accidentally in some fashion similar to “butt dialing”, the battery hadn’t even been in the simple phone (I haven’t yet gone over to smart phones).
Apparently once cloned, messages can be read, deleted and sent from the other unit. If the units are within the same cell tower area voice calls can be heard. To copy the sim card requires physical access I understand. Interesting.
Think what this means. Not only can ‘they’ surveil all electronic communications, they can also control who communicates with whom, depending upon the medium (though this could have been a psychopathic rogue NYPD officer, around 5′ 8″, sandy colored hair, 40s, name unknown).
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From below, on psychopaths:
Herve Cleckley: “we are dealing … not with a complete man at all but with … a subtly constructed reflex machine which can mimic the human personality perfectly”
Otto Kernberg: “an enraged empty self—the hungry wolf out to kill, eat and survive.”
An earlier post:
Per Herve Cleckley, per Joe Mcginniss:
Recall here the words of Herve Cleckley, which I encountered for the first time in the fall of 1980: “Only very slowly and by a complex estimation or judgment based on multitudinous small impressions does the conviction come upon us [in regard to the psychopath] that, despite these intact rational processes, these normal emotional affirmations and their consistent application in all directions, we are dealing … not with a complete man at all but with something that suggests a subtly constructed reflex machine which can mimic the human personality perfectly.” [Mask of Sanity, p. 369]
It took me a long time to accept that MacDonald could be the charming and apparently caring man I’d come to know (or thought I did) during the summer of 1979, and, at the same time be what the psychiatrist Otto Kernberg has described as “an enraged empty self—the hungry wolf out to kill, eat and survive.”
Further: https://pathwhisperer.info/2011/06/01/this-nonsense-has-got-to-stop-you-cannot-betray-a-nonhuman-human-who-is-trying-to-play-the-interviewer-mcginniss-malcolm-bazelon/, https://pathwhisperer.info/2015/07/19/search-jeffrey-macdonald-many-surgeons-are-psychopaths/
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From Lovefraud (http://www.lovefraud.com/2015/11/06/ahmed-chalabi-dies-the-con-man-who-helped-push-the-u-s-into-iraq/):
“I [LF’s Donna Anderson] remember thinking back in 2004, as I was learning about psychopaths, that an Iraqi politician named Ahmed Chalabi fit the profile.
Chalabi was charming, smart and persuasive. He was connected to top officials in the administration of President George W. Bush. Chalabi provided the “intelligence” that Saddam Hussein was stockpiling weapons of mass destruction, which was the public justification for the United States invasion of Iraq.
Well, he lied. No WMDs were found.
By 2004, it became apparent that Chalabi had manipulated America get what he wanted — the war. But Chalabi did not apologize. He said that the ends — removing Saddam Hussein from power — justified the means.
My psychopathic ex-husband used to say that: “The ends justifies the means.”
Ahmed Chalabi died of a heart attack last week.
In the meantime, 4,493 Americans were killed in Iraq, and thousands more wounded. Estimates of civilian war deaths generally range between 100,000 and 200,000.
Maybe, if government officials knew how to recognize a psychopath, none of this would have happened.” http://www.lovefraud.com/2015/11/06/ahmed-chalabi-dies-the-con-man-who-helped-push-the-u-s-into-iraq/
I agree on Chalabi. Absolutely, no doubt at all. ‘The ends justify the means’ — mantra of the psychopathic, mantra of the psychopath wannabes, mantra of the evil.
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Quoted from Psychopaths and Love, excerpts and paragraphs [Blue bolding added] (http://psychopathsandlove.com/dangerous-mistake-about-the-psychopathic-mind/):
Do You Make This Simple (But Dangerous) Mistake About the Psychopathic Mind?
“Misinterpreting the behavior of a disordered character is the first step in the process of being victimized by them.” (Dr. George Simon)
. . . Assumed Similarity Bias — a mental shortcut that leads us to the unconscious assumption that others share the same or similar values, thoughts and beliefs. We automatically assume that others are just like we are, especially when it comes to the fundamental aspects of our characters that are so basic we never even give them a second thought — such as having a conscience. [PW: let me add additional descriptive terms: normalcy bias, belief in basic human goodness bias, see-no-evil bias, mom and dad would have told me bias, keep reality within my current frame of reference bias, pound that square peg into that round hole bias, there’s nothing scary here bias, Captain Kangaroo [Mr. Rogers, etc.] never talked about this bias, everything traces back to childhood bias, etc. Further, this is closely related to the “Naive Prey Response Syndrome” (https://pathwhisperer.info/2015/06/14/naive-prey-response-syndrome/).]
In other words, you never for a moment stop to consider that some people in fact have a drastically different way of being, one that is so foreign to you that you can’t even begin to grasp it.
. . .
“He doesn’t depend on our love because he ‘fears emptiness’… he depends on it because our love enables him to exploit and manipulate us. He doesn’t search for people to ‘cling to,’ he searches for people to VICTIMIZE. Don’t forget, we are dealing with a predator. You are attributing your feelings and motivations to him, when in fact they are not like yours at all. The anger is simply from frustration when he doesn’t get his needs met…They do not share our need for ‘authentic purpose.’ That’s your need, not the need of the psychopath. They have their own purpose, which is vastly different from your purpose.”
. . .
The truth is very difficult to understand from our own frame of reference. It’s important to understand it, though, because it is their significant differences that cause the harm we experience.
. . .
When we experience someone engaging in bad behavior of one kind or another, we think of it in terms of why WE might act that way and how WE would feel afterward. When we do this, we come up with the idea that the behavior may stem from insecurity, past wounds, fear, or a lack of love; and we imagine they must feel shame and guilt after treating us so badly. Because of this, we are more apt to forgive, to let things slide, to stick it out and see if things will change with love and acceptance and time.
But when the same things happen again and again, it comes time to face an important truth:
The only intelligent way to make judgements about people is to base those judgements on their patterns of behavior, and not on what we think the reasons for their behavior might be.
. . .
Unfortunately, traditional psychology still hangs on to the outdated belief that everyone is struggling with insecurities and fears, and teaches that this struggle is what causes problem behavior. This puts us at a disadvantage and leaves us vulnerable to abuse and exploitation. And it seems to say that the field of psychology itself is operating under its own ‘assumed similarity’ bias!
. . .
It’s very difficult to understand how the psychopathic mind works because it is so totally different from what we know. I think it’s made even harder because we don’t want to believe it’s possible, and we don’t want to accept that the person we were with was not at all who or what we thought they were, and that nothing we believed about the relationship was true… and that it wasn’t even a relationship at all. . . . (http://psychopathsandlove.com/dangerous-mistake-about-the-psychopathic-mind/)
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From “Investigating Psychopaths” from Psychopathyawareness via the Psychopathic Times:
“Since psychopaths are pathological liars and their every interaction with others is self-serving and strategic, even seasoned investigators and forensic psychologists have great difficulty dealing with them. Basically, they’re always faced with the liar’s paradox yet still need to get useful and true information from them.
Katherine Ramsland (from trutv.com) wrote an excellent article about how investigators deal with the inevitable obstacles and difficulties they encounter when attempting to retrieve true information from psychopaths about their crimes. I’m pasting part of her article below:
. . . While psychopaths appear to use the same language as normal individuals, they have their own inner logic. They calculate the world around them in terms of self-gain. They are society’s vampires. They may be intoxicated rather than repulsed by the idea of targeting humans and picking them off, because it makes them feel powerful. Their agendas have no analogues in the normal world. That means developing a careful mode of communication. In this person’s perception, almost any response could be the “wrong” one.”” https://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/04/12/investigating-psychopaths/
From “Damaged” by Malcolm Gladwell:
[Dorothy Otnow Lewis:] “The day before [Ted Bundy] was executed, he asked me to turn off the tape recorder. He said he wanted to tell me things that he didn’t want recorded, so I didn’t record them. It was very confidential.” To this day, Lewis has never told anyone what Bundy said. There is something almost admirable about this. But there is also something strange about extending the physician-patient privilege to a killer like Bundy-about turning the murderer so completely into a patient. It is not that the premise is false, that murderers can’t also be patients. It’s just that once you make that leap-once you turn the criminal into an object of medical scrutiny-the crime itself inevitably becomes pushed aside and normalized. The difference between a crime of evil and a crime of illness is the difference between a sin and a symptom. And symptoms don’t intrude in the relationship between the murderer and the rest of us: they don’t force us to stop and observe the distinctions between right and wrong, between the speakable and the unspeakable, the way sins do. It was at the end of that final conversation that Bundy reached down and kissed Lewis on the cheek. But that was not all that happened. Lewis then reached up, put her arms around him, and kissed him back. http://gladwell.com/damaged/
Again, “To this day, Lewis has never told anyone what Bundy said.” This is just downright bizarre. She doesn’t know that she was being played? She thinks Ted Bundy was capable of a ‘soul communication”, that deep inside his psyche was a tortured soul wishing to reach out to others? “Bundy thought I was the only person who didn’t want something from him,” Lewis says. Really?
I do quote her approvingly elsewhere, on dissociation (https://pathwhisperer.info/2014/03/19/to-the-de-blasio-administration-i-hereby-volunteer-to-identify-nypd-whiteshirt-psychopaths-gratis/). I think she has a deep knowledge of the psyche of human beings. I don’t understand her blindness here, unless it’s simply the special relationship between females and the male psychopath.
She had no idea whatsoever of what was sitting across the table, in her discussions with Mr. Bundy. Namely, a biological mechanism that could read/sense her emotions, vanities and vulnerabilities, instantaneously calculate a normal human response that would cater to his readings and his manipulative ends, and then mime them. Actually, in acting terms, psychopathic reactions are a beat off, the readings do take time. This momentary pause should be noted.
Psychopaths use words as a tool, strategically. The manipulative use of language is their main lifetool, as fins are to a fish. Valuable communication is nonverbal. Borrowing Ramsland’s phrase: there is no analogue in the normal world to their use of language. However their strategies are understandable and their communications should be interpreted through that understanding. It is also important to figure out “how old” the target psychopath is. That is, how far did they get in their arrested development path (somewhere in latency – 6/7 to puberty, though there are always very, very young traits — none of them for example get the ‘sharing thing’ though many can mime the behavior). How self referential is the target? What’s the need to brag? How arrrogant? What are the individual’s triggers? What level of self control? The more one knows about the individual’s personality the better. All of this goes into the mix in teasing the truth out of a pathological liar’s communications.
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