From some of the searches that find this blog, it’s evident that people out there are wrestling with very difficult sociopathic problems.
My son is a sociopath, what do I do? This was one recent search. The best I can do is send the searcher over to the Lovefraud blog (see link to the right) where a number of posters have been in this position.
One thing I can say is that as a sociopathic son enters puberty it is essential to protect younger siblings, particularly sisters but also brothers (sociopaths know only friction orgasms, they are essentially pansexual). It would be nothing to most sociopaths to get a sister drunk and share her with his buddies.
Secondly, apparently some of the children dropped off in Nebraska were sociopathic. If institutionalization or this route is taken I think I would (I’m thinking out loud, trying to feel my way through this) suggest staying in contact with the child. Sociopaths fully experience most of the normal prepubescent emotions of childhood I believe. Abandonment would be very real to them, not to mention also to the parents (who no doubt would be in a terrible bind). Contact would be better for the soul of the sociopath (such as it is) and the parents. Total abandonment would leave a sociopathic child angrier and more dangerous. I believe the argument could be made that Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer were serial killers due to never having bonded as infants (Ted Bundy was left in the hospital for months with his mother hesitant to keep him as I recall) not due to their inherent sociopathy, which only made them more skillful at it. Thus their murderously angry infant selves became a permanent part of their psyches, coming forth to use an adult’s capabilities and intelligence together with a sociopath’s manipulativeness and cunning to carry out their murders.
How to get a sociopath fired? My advice would be to focus strictly on the malfeasance. In my opinion it is very difficult to persuade someone of another’s sociopathy. It seems that everyone thinks they are a perfect judge of such matters, even if they have never heard of a sociopath, or think they have never met one, or expect never to meet one in their lifetime.
If the problem is sociopathic workplace bullying or harassment then there are totally different problems. Are any managers devotees of the sociopath, lovers, or blackmailed lovers? Nobody wants to leave a job or co-workers they like but sociopathic bullying is very detrimental to the victim. In my experience management and HR are usually of no help. If you stay and fight, in my opinion, you need to get as vicious as possible as quickly as possible (maybe not, if you take the bull by the horns you may get gored). Furthermore if a friend is seduced and blackmailed by a sociopathic enemy, then your friend is your enemy. The situation can get very ugly, very fast.
To those who say that such things could never happen in their world I beg to differ. ‘See no evil, a preyer’s prayer’ — to borrow a phrase. Think what a shield to the corrupt the response of “Oh, that just can’t be happening” is. Or to those who say they have no enemies, ‘I’m a nice person why should I have enemies.’ I’m afraid you don’t understand sociopathic motivations. The pick of a target for sociopathic workplace bullying may make no sense anywhere other than in the mind of a particular sociopath.
Without a professional and ethical management and HR department there are really no good options. While at UBS, I actually proposed creating an office to deal with sociopathic employees but was not taken up on it (https://pathwhisperer.wordpress.com/proposal-to-ubs-upper-management/).
Sociopathic employee and HR. Ha, ha, ha. What does HR stand for? Human Resources. One would assume that HR’s job would be to take care of the human resources of a company, to see that their rights are respected in terms of both company policy and labor law. Wrong. In my experience HR’s job is to assist management in exploiting the workforce. The term, Human Resources, is often merely a 180 degree lie. Such lies are a great favorite of sociopaths so many sociopaths go into the field themselves, in my experience. I have, more than once, seen sociopathic HR reps side with sociopathic employees, even criminal or mentally ill ones.
How to beat a sociopath in court? Another hard one. Occasionally they defeat themselves, Thomas Capano and Wayne Williams insisted on testifying on their own behalf driven by their high self regard and pathological optimism. In general I believe there is a vast problem of sociopathic judges, prosecutors and even defense attorneys siding with a sociopathic pleader even if this goes against the law or even the interests of a client.