Just saw this:
Im looking for a book that explains gaslighting really well. Its for me and my Dad.
My mum abused me as a child, along with her siblings.
ts a big family secret they have kept well by using group gaslighting. Their gaslighting, and pretending nothing happened/excluding me, is probably the last biggest hurdle I have in healing (My dad was also manipulated by them). At some level…I still find it hard to believe myself.
So i’m looking for a really good book about gaslighting. Any help would be very much appreciated! https://cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php/topic,44230.msg716939.html#msg716939
Among the answers:
There is a book called “The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life” by Dr. Robin Stern. I read it a few years ago and thought it was excellent.
https://www.amazon.com/Gaslight-Effect-Survive-Manipulation-Control/dp/0767924452George Simon’s book “In Sheep’s Clothing” is really good too.
Another good one is: The Empathy Trap: Understanding Antisocial Personalities by by Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor.
The authors also had an interview on SOTT Talk Radio: https://www.sott.net/article/270014-Behind-the-Headlines-The-Empathy-Trap-Understanding-how-predators-manipulate-peoples-strengths-and-weaknesses
For those who have never experienced gaslighting I would suggest starting with the movie itself.
I once went into the local precinct to report that I thought that individuals were entering my apartment (I suspected an ex and a friend). The PAA asked me if anything was stolen. I replied no, only that electrical/electronic devices were turned on and off. She just looked at me. I was almost embarrassed to be saying it out loud. I never got to the part, “oh yeah, and I think the guy was a cop.”
There are actually two types of gaslighting: the first where the victim is not aware that the gaslighting is purposeful, the second where the victim is fully aware (by the gaslighter’s intent) but can’t say anything because no one will believe them.