My blog was found by this search. I’ve never heard of this situation before, but it’s not really surprising. The early phase of puberty takes place before the internalization of incest taboos. Psychopaths live there, at that phase.
Blackmail is simply a huge problem. Psychopaths love it, if it’s successful it’s a crime without consequence for the perp, the victim is drawn into the crime. The victim by protecting themselves also protects the blackmailer.
I don’t think this situation will end well. Dads aren’t slow, males are geared towards recognizing female infidelity and a partner’s lover — if they all live in the same home . . .
I certainly hope she doesn’t consider justifiable homicide, heck no, nosireebob, that would be a crime, not to mention wrong, just wrong.
Sex at point of blackmail is really rape. We’re not talking jerks, we’re talking guys who’d rape their mothers.
Of course, psychopaths turn to words last in reading any communication. For them words are just tools to be used in lying and manipulating, they don’t expect them to be truly meaningful.
The times I’ve watched her court, she appears very calm. I’m sure that is not true. I believe she’s running septuple/octuple time in her own head. We can sometimes run double or triple time, but psychopaths have different brains and can far outpace us. She knows full well that she is on trial for her life and she needs to win over at least one jury member. Thus her little schoolgirl appearance and manner — it’s truly masterful.
Reminds me of a couple of my ex’s: ‘Protect me, big man. I’m so weak and fragile, I need your protection.’ Somehow I’d miss the fine print, ‘Of course I get to suck your blood and throw away your dried husk at any time of my choosing, because I’m Baby, and I get whatever I want, because I’m so weak and fragile.’ The term is “protect-me-monster”. But I digress . . .
I am so sad that my world of associates continues to dwindle because of the subtle words, set ups and comparisons to unlikable TV/Movie characters that my soon to be ex husband continues to make about me when around others.
He trashed my reputation to such lengths that I don’t even know where to even begin to try and 1) show these people that I am not the person he is making me out to be. . . .
I would appreciate something that may work. His behaviors and tall tales are also having an effect on my son’s social life too. I am an attractive person, a caring nice person, have always been popular and well liked. People that don’t have any idea who I am hate me because of my ex husband. He has done this to me even before we were divorcing. But now it has begun and taken hold in my new town and school district. What can I do? Something please !
Larry:
@ Becca …
I know the sadness all too well. I only know a fraction of what has been said about my life and character, but those who do know the lies will never tell. I came to the conclusion after believing I could spread the truth about me that it was all too late. Those people, even family members, didn’t want to listen to me. In the eyes of many, I am an true outcast.
I eventually came to terms with what I was faced with, and instead of taking the route of continually being so depressed and not achieving anything positive, I accepted I had to let go, and erase them from my life. That included my two daughters.
In my experience, I’ve never heard a victim turn things around, though I would hope it’s happened. That has the effect of taking you down, but do not let it. Come to peace with your life and future, and the new people you will meet.
Well that’s depressing. Why are these character assassinations so believed, that the victim himself is never told the accusations? Amazing. The effects are not small, the victim’s life is absolutely devastated.
From another comment, David:
Believe me moving away does not help to much, because I believe what people go through you still live with it. I to have the same problem. The whole thing of just turning off. When I wake up everything that has happened to me starts all over again. I think about it every moment. I make bad decisions because of what’s on my mind. There are times, when I too can’t get a breath in.
It not only extends through every moment of the victim’s life, but extends outward. The victim’s stress is brought home to their family. Marriages founder. Divorces result. The victim’s preoccupation (or spreading cancer of anxiety) distorts the victim’s judgement, and causes the victim to miss cues from others, sometimes important ones. Sleep is hard, activated anxiety centers never go to sleep.
Imagine what Becca must have felt in her new town as she felt it all happening again. Her silent screams as though she were on thin ice watching the cracks seek her out, following her from her past locations, powerless to affect or stop them. Or perhaps she felt she was being pursued by ghosts that could strike her at will, but that she could neither see nor defend against.
We are all social animals. We need secure communities of friends and believe we have them. Victims of psychopathic character assassination know that is not true. For them, what was once solid ground becomes a thin crust over a sea of acid. They never know when a footfall will break through.
It should be pointed out that the psychopath’s aim is murder, murder by suicide.
The daisy chain of evil has to be broken. Or perhaps a better metaphor would be the paper cutout doll chain needs to be broken lest it unfold into infinity, damaging all it touches.
But no one helps. The psychopath’s whispering campaign is absolutely and totally believed. The victim is almost never even told, ‘the word on the street about you is . . . ., thought you should know.’ Sad.
August 10, 2015: I am simply stunned that no one has ever communicated the character assassination allegations against myself. I once offered a woman who, from one day to the next, turned her head to the wall rather than say hello to me (and we had been workplace friends for years – this pattern happened repeatedly but slowly over the years, the psychopathic perp couldn’t risk my inner circle telling me), a hundred dollars if she (or her husband if she preferred) would tell me the whyfor. Plenty of people who know me read this blog. Comments can be totally anonymous. There is no need to fill out any identifying field. Further to protect their IP address, if desired, anyone can simply go to a copy center or internet cafe. Comments are moderated so it is a private communication. If preferred there are also many free and anonymous email account providers. I just don’t get it. Where’s the downside? I would help and have helped others in similar situations.
It completely ignores the existence of psychopaths/sociopaths.
Psychopaths have different brains, they are like a subspecies. A societal or warfare/strife analysis that ignores their presence is nursery school level analysis.
I prefer the term psychopath. We are not all one human family, we are not all brothers and sisters under the skin. Psychopaths have a different brain structure, they are human alternates.
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Narcissists are ill, psychopaths are true to their nature. Fighting crime, corruption and evil without reference to (and a separate response for) psychopaths is like fighting with both hands tied behind one’s back.
It’s not accidental that we are at this turn in history. We’ve been blind to the predators in our midst too long.
Obviously individuals are punished for crimes not for what they are. Most psychopaths (but not all) are persuadable, concerning following laws and societal norms, through educated self interest or utilitarianism. But it is disastrous to ignore their presence.
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Wow! Is this a joke or are you for real? Assuming the latter, thanks for writing in and illustrating bankster criminal psychopathy.
Since you are into sharing, could you have your brain scanned and share the results with us?
That’s delusional, but I’ll humor you. Would that license you to frontrun the market?
Wall St./the financial services sector is just that, a service sector. If you look at a national economy as one business, it’s not even a profit center. But it has become parasitic on the larger (real) economy. Understanding this is probably beyond your limited intellectual capabilities.
You looters are destroying the world economy. Thanks for the depression you’ve given the U.S. and the world.
“An Occupy Wall Street Activist [a Mr. PinkWhiteBlack] explains why he thinks its very important to spread knowledge about psychopaths and psychopathy. Find out about the important connection between psychopaths and the ruling 1%:
“So basically the reason I come down here every so often is that I’m trying to spread information about psychopathy. I think it has an over-arching impact on why people are down here camping out, and why the financial industry and the government really doesn’t care about the people anymore. These people are about 1-5% of the population and they have no concept of empathy, remorse, guilt, conscience – they’re just not biologically capable of it. They’ve shown this in fMRI studies and there’s been a lot of actual hard science that proves the point that their totally different from normal humans.””
It’s more subtle than that [in reply to the comment that psychopaths are insane]. Psychopaths are clever chameleons, hiding their true nature. Technically they are not insane but true to their own nature.
I believe we are misdiagnosing the sociopathy/psychopathy of the “1%” as steeming from some innate biology rather than modern socioeconomic structures.
I think it is both. If corporations are allowed the freedom to be sociopathic, sociopaths will and do rise to the top — they don’t have the “problem” of a conscience and the “friction” it induces. Our current socioeconomic structures draw them forward.
I have no idea what percentage of the 1% is in fact sociopathic, but even a limited number can act as a “bad seed” in influencing corruption.
Fighting crime, corruption and evil without any reference to sociopathy is like fighting with both hands tied behind one’s back. It seems we never make inroads on sex trafficking, child prostitution, illicit organ transplant rings, etc. Sociopaths laugh at our laws.
Wow, great to see this post. Lobaczewski’s (and others, it was a saga) “Political Ponerology: A Science on The Nature of Evil adjusted for Political Purposes” is one of the great books of history. It is a scientific study of the development of pathocracies (governments under the control of evil individuals and movements).
Hi whatishumanity, I notice the comments are all your own. The topic of psychopaths in control of power seems to be too big for most people to wrap their heads around. I’ve seen this many, many times.
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Blaming the victim is their specialty. They still want to blame unqualified buyers for the worldwide economic crash, these buyers weren’t even to blame for the mortgage meltdown. Mortgage backed securities were the cause, they supposedly freed the brokers from risk. The brokers then went out vacuuming up any buyers.
The crash has been caused by untramelled greed and the creation and fraudulent selling of “risk free” financial “products”, out of control derivatives, bubble economics, etc. — they actually thought they had beaten the business cycle and had created a risk free capitalism by securitizing everything and thus diluting the risk.
Nothing structural has changed since 2008. The banks are even more too big to fail, derivatives are even more out of control. We still have a casino economy designed by sociopaths who think they can’t lose.
In terms of people not realizing what they’re up against, everybody seems to think that sociopaths only fool the other guy, not them.
“[L]et me list some traits to keep in mind. Look for (in no particular order) any or all of the following: a Zelig like ability to be all things to all people, an incredible ability to inveigle themselves into the good graces of authority figures, individuals for whom the phrase two-sided is a vast underestimation, a delight in causing discord through subtle puppet mastery, a vast and deep irresponsibility, an “eggshell” type personality which is always threatening to respond in childish anger if thwarted, and as always both a deep arrogance with no discernible cause and an extreme talent at eliciting pity. Some of these insights may come in “a blinding flash” — you should pay attention to them. Of course some of these traits are not unique to sociopaths, however in sociopaths they have a “unique flavor” which I think will become evident after recognizing the first few sociopaths.” https://pathwhisperer.wordpress.com/2009/02/18/items-of-interest-some-recent-some-not-so-some-that-suggest-possible-sociopathy-some-that-scream-it/
If interested, further material of mine on the forum can be found through searching “site:http://occupywallst.org pathwhisperer”
As many of you know Kathy Krajco died in May of 2008 (of unknown causes). Kathy Krajco and Cause of Death.
A couple years ago I looked for her sites both online and through the Wayback Machine but her blog had disappeared and the archived site seemed incomplete. However the blog is again online (perhaps saved by friends and supporters) and her main site is available through the Wayback Machine (as is mine also).
Well, now that the summer has ended emotionally speaking (Labor Day weekend), it’s time for PW to get back to work and give my fans what they come here for . . . . What’s that? Excuse me? . . . Uh, . . . OK, it’s time for PW to give my fan what he or she comes for. So starting with recent searches, in no particular order:
what is reverse blackmail
Blackmail always presents the opportunity of reverse blackmail, namely, ‘if you do what you threaten, then I’ll have you jailed for blackmail, your choice.’ It’s an ‘out cooling’ strategy. You can’t pull it off if you are playing however. You need to really believe you can do it, so practice etc. Otherwise a sociopath will see right through the attempt.
does blackmail lead to further blackmail
Absolutely, often a lifetime of blackmail. Sometimes it seems someone will accede to a blackmail demand as a way to preserve their world and their life as they know it — but then the blackmailer will essentially move in and take over their life. No sociopath will ever be bound by a promise of ‘do this and then you’re free.’ That’s why it is worth fighting the initial blackmail attempt tooth and nail (reverse blackmail, building a harassment case, getting a concealed carry permit, etc.).
i loaned a sociopath money. what do i do?
First stop loaning them more money. You will never get your original money back unless you are in a position of power over them. Most people simply have to wave goodbye to the loaned money. Since sociopaths are geniuses at inciting pity, probably 95%+ have loaned money to one at some point, I certainly have.
are sociopaths immature
Absolutely and in every way. Sociopathy is an arrested development syndrome.
why narcissist’s false self is so rigid
The need to forever keep at bay the wolf at the door — self hate and self loathing. (I assume the searcher is asking about actual narcissists, not using the term as a synonym for sociopathy/psychopathy.)
can a sociopath love his parents?
That’s an interesting question. It seems to depend on the ‘dose’ of sociopathy. Male sociopaths seem to relate to their fathers.
can tsa recognize a psychopath
Not unless the TSA agent is a psychopath or the rare normal who ‘can see’ psychopaths.
do sociopaths know they are evil
Not all are. Those who are know they are, in my opinion.
how does a sociopath chose his victims
It doesn’t necessarily make sense anywhere outside of that particular sociopath’s mind. Third parties usually assume there is a reason, a history and two sides to a story — none of which are necessarily true in these situations. Sometimes though they will seek to protect a fellow sociopath by targeting that sociopath’s target or cause of trouble. This opens up the subject of sociopathic gang stalking which is a huge problem.
do sociopaths run together
Absolutely. Sociopaths vary in their ability to manage in the normal world (the phrase often used it that they are as strangers in a strange land). They will cluster around those more able.
was gaetan dugas a sociopath
Yes, the hundreds (thousands?) of lovers, the lack of concern about spreading the mysterious disease. Flight steward/attendant is a great job for sociopaths — seeing the world, meeting many people, going to bed with them, avoiding boredom.
Why the AIDS epidemic hasn’t educated the public to the presence of sociopaths I will never understand.
how sociopath gets you to question your sanity
It’s called gaslighting. They will spend enormous time and effort in these pursuits, it makes them feel superior. More to the point of the question, sensing vulnerabilities and entry points to an individual’s psyche is a trait of sociopaths (inborn, imo).
why does hr always support the sociopath?
Before bashing HR let’s consider more innocuous explanations. Most people assume every story has two sides and a rational explanation — assuming these things will always protect a sociopath. Gays, including gay HR reps, will almost always give the benefit of the doubt to sociopaths as co-alternate sexuality community members (with the exception of those who have experienced sociopathic betrayal). Moving on — many people join HR for the pleasure of lying and manipulating others — so there is a high percentage of actual sociopaths, children of sociopaths, and those who admire sociopathic techniques (such as Machiavellian strategies) in the field.
can you blackmail a sociopath
I assume the searcher means can you blackmail a sociopath about being a sociopath. If you can you are probably doing so already, no need to spell it out. It depends on many things such as where the individual sociopath is on the arrogance/I never lose/consequences-schmonsequences/i’m a Mutant-X superman/why-oh-why are people born so stupid continuums. Also how can you blackmail someone who doesn’t understand cause and effect or is stuck in a four year old’s thinking patterns (Newt Gingrich says there is a four year old inside of him — ‘everyday he wakes up and knows that there is a cookie waiting for him somewhere, his job is to find it’).
am i safe if i am a target of a sister who is a psychopath
Personally I would put as much physical distance between myself and her as possible. Do not maintain a relationship for ‘the sake of the family.’ Try to educate your loved ones about psychopathy (which can be very hard to do).
what do sociopaths want
Hmmm. Proof that their defect is a sign of superiority? Outside support of their innate arrogance? Revenge on the emotionally alive?
psychopaths fake cry
Watch their crying sequence, they get it all wrong. Watch a vet mourn for fallen comrades, usually the chin starts trembling, they lose control of their voice, they turn away, they cry. Psychopathic fake crying comes across like a badly programmed robot’s efforts. Also, there is often a feeling that the psychopath is watching through their fingers to judge the effect and/or is contemptuous of onlookers (pay attention to all emotional responses when dealing with possible psychopaths).
My instincts tell me there’s something terribly wrong here with the Petit story. Of course, my instincts could be wrong. However, I’ve also seen a few videos backing the swiftest possible execution of the perps found guilty (who by all accounts are total monsters) of murdering the Petit family. The individuals speaking in these videos also raised my suspicions as possible sociopaths — the question is, why do these third parties care so much about disposing of these found guilty perps?
Vicitims Tom and Jackie Hawks, top, their boat - "Well Deserved" - convicted killer Jennifer Henderson, bottom right, and her ex-husband, former child star Skylar Deleon, bottom left. Pictures: AP
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