As many of you know Kathy Krajco died in May of 2008 (of unknown causes). Kathy Krajco and Cause of Death.
A couple years ago I looked for her sites both online and through the Wayback Machine but her blog had disappeared and the archived site seemed incomplete. However the blog is again online (perhaps saved by friends and supporters) and her main site is available through the Wayback Machine (as is mine also).
Sociopaths hate being asked to be generous or to consider the wellbeing of others. Emotionally/psychologically it “hurts” them. Literally they have never crossed into the “OK, I’m now able/willing to share my toys” stage of childhood. They still resent being asked and like young children get angry at being pressed beyond their development stage.
Elsewhere I have suggested it might be possible to pin down a sociopath’s approximate age level (somewhere in the latency period) but their development is a very odd amalgam with some incredibly young traits. The above is one, another is their inability to differentiate between the self and the self’s emotional desires (to them these are not two things). Being emotionally thwarted is taken to be an attack on the self.
True adults should take over the movement. I am sure there are many sincere members who seek to restore constitutional government and a true democracy that reflects the wishes of the citizens.
[NOTE (9/4/22): The real Tea Party is described in the last para above. I was overly influenced by small numbers ‘acting badly’.
Plus progressives, such as my earlier self, ‘follow the crowd’, like most people. Plus they have an unstated belief in a ‘community of the wise’ — located in such publications as the NY Times, The New Yorker, the Atlantic, and in the universities, etc. In my experience progressives will believe ‘university studies’ over their own eyes, for example when driving through hollowed out towns on the old US Highway system that goes from Main Street to Main Street.
Well, now that the summer has ended emotionally speaking (Labor Day weekend), it’s time for PW to get back to work and give my fans what they come here for . . . . What’s that? Excuse me? . . . Uh, . . . OK, it’s time for PW to give my fan what he or she comes for. So starting with recent searches, in no particular order:
what is reverse blackmail
Blackmail always presents the opportunity of reverse blackmail, namely, ‘if you do what you threaten, then I’ll have you jailed for blackmail, your choice.’ It’s an ‘out cooling’ strategy. You can’t pull it off if you are playing however. You need to really believe you can do it, so practice etc. Otherwise a sociopath will see right through the attempt.
does blackmail lead to further blackmail
Absolutely, often a lifetime of blackmail. Sometimes it seems someone will accede to a blackmail demand as a way to preserve their world and their life as they know it — but then the blackmailer will essentially move in and take over their life. No sociopath will ever be bound by a promise of ‘do this and then you’re free.’ That’s why it is worth fighting the initial blackmail attempt tooth and nail (reverse blackmail, building a harassment case, getting a concealed carry permit, etc.).
i loaned a sociopath money. what do i do?
First stop loaning them more money. You will never get your original money back unless you are in a position of power over them. Most people simply have to wave goodbye to the loaned money. Since sociopaths are geniuses at inciting pity, probably 95%+ have loaned money to one at some point, I certainly have.
are sociopaths immature
Absolutely and in every way. Sociopathy is an arrested development syndrome.
why narcissist’s false self is so rigid
The need to forever keep at bay the wolf at the door — self hate and self loathing. (I assume the searcher is asking about actual narcissists, not using the term as a synonym for sociopathy/psychopathy.)
can a sociopath love his parents?
That’s an interesting question. It seems to depend on the ‘dose’ of sociopathy. Male sociopaths seem to relate to their fathers.
can tsa recognize a psychopath
Not unless the TSA agent is a psychopath or the rare normal who ‘can see’ psychopaths.
do sociopaths know they are evil
Not all are. Those who are know they are, in my opinion.
how does a sociopath chose his victims
It doesn’t necessarily make sense anywhere outside of that particular sociopath’s mind. Third parties usually assume there is a reason, a history and two sides to a story — none of which are necessarily true in these situations. Sometimes though they will seek to protect a fellow sociopath by targeting that sociopath’s target or cause of trouble. This opens up the subject of sociopathic gang stalking which is a huge problem.
do sociopaths run together
Absolutely. Sociopaths vary in their ability to manage in the normal world (the phrase often used it that they are as strangers in a strange land). They will cluster around those more able.
was gaetan dugas a sociopath
Yes, the hundreds (thousands?) of lovers, the lack of concern about spreading the mysterious disease. Flight steward/attendant is a great job for sociopaths — seeing the world, meeting many people, going to bed with them, avoiding boredom.
Why the AIDS epidemic hasn’t educated the public to the presence of sociopaths I will never understand.
how sociopath gets you to question your sanity
It’s called gaslighting. They will spend enormous time and effort in these pursuits, it makes them feel superior. More to the point of the question, sensing vulnerabilities and entry points to an individual’s psyche is a trait of sociopaths (inborn, imo).
why does hr always support the sociopath?
Before bashing HR let’s consider more innocuous explanations. Most people assume every story has two sides and a rational explanation — assuming these things will always protect a sociopath. Gays, including gay HR reps, will almost always give the benefit of the doubt to sociopaths as co-alternate sexuality community members (with the exception of those who have experienced sociopathic betrayal). Moving on — many people join HR for the pleasure of lying and manipulating others — so there is a high percentage of actual sociopaths, children of sociopaths, and those who admire sociopathic techniques (such as Machiavellian strategies) in the field.
can you blackmail a sociopath
I assume the searcher means can you blackmail a sociopath about being a sociopath. If you can you are probably doing so already, no need to spell it out. It depends on many things such as where the individual sociopath is on the arrogance/I never lose/consequences-schmonsequences/i’m a Mutant-X superman/why-oh-why are people born so stupid continuums. Also how can you blackmail someone who doesn’t understand cause and effect or is stuck in a four year old’s thinking patterns (Newt Gingrich says there is a four year old inside of him — ‘everyday he wakes up and knows that there is a cookie waiting for him somewhere, his job is to find it’).
am i safe if i am a target of a sister who is a psychopath
Personally I would put as much physical distance between myself and her as possible. Do not maintain a relationship for ‘the sake of the family.’ Try to educate your loved ones about psychopathy (which can be very hard to do).
what do sociopaths want
Hmmm. Proof that their defect is a sign of superiority? Outside support of their innate arrogance? Revenge on the emotionally alive?
psychopaths fake cry
Watch their crying sequence, they get it all wrong. Watch a vet mourn for fallen comrades, usually the chin starts trembling, they lose control of their voice, they turn away, they cry. Psychopathic fake crying comes across like a badly programmed robot’s efforts. Also, there is often a feeling that the psychopath is watching through their fingers to judge the effect and/or is contemptuous of onlookers (pay attention to all emotional responses when dealing with possible psychopaths).
My instincts tell me there’s something terribly wrong here with the Petit story. Of course, my instincts could be wrong. However, I’ve also seen a few videos backing the swiftest possible execution of the perps found guilty (who by all accounts are total monsters) of murdering the Petit family. The individuals speaking in these videos also raised my suspicions as possible sociopaths — the question is, why do these third parties care so much about disposing of these found guilty perps?
The Army has a serious problem with toxic leaders. A new survey shows that soldiers rate 18 percent of their leaders as “bullies … tyrants … jerks” more interested in their own advancement than the welfare of the troops. A distinguished retired three-star, Lt. Gen. Walter Ulmer, estimated that roughly 8 percent to 12 percent of Army officers at the rank of colonel and higher “are so toxic that they need to be removed from command.”
That’s quite an indictment.
This problem, like so many others, is a byproduct of a decade of war that saw the force dedicated to developing combat skills, often at the expense of broader leadership abilities.
Army Chief of Staff Gen. Martin E. Dempsey [ . . .] wants leaders who earn the respect of subordinates and peers alike, rather than martinets and incompetents who hold authority only because they outrank everyone around them.
Such twisted chain of command is driving good troops out of the Army. So bad leaders not only are demoralizing, they are expensive.
The word isn’t toxic, it’s sociopathic. Give all officer candidates brain scans for possible sociopathy. I understand that the military makes a big effort to weed out sociopaths from the enlisted ranks, as they should (though some slip by: Steven Green who was discharged from the military “due to antisocial personality disorder but before the military was aware of the incident” (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahmudiyah_killings)). They also need to take great care with their officers.
I am not saying that the majority of these “toxic” officers would be or have to be sociopathic. That is not necessary for sociopaths to do the harm they do, though the sociopathic percentage would be much higher than in the general population. My argument is that corruption, evil and the causes of human misery cannot be understood without taking sociopaths into account. Sociopathic mal-doers license, enable the non sociopathic corrupt and humiliated to emulate them. They are the sharp end of the stick in war crimes and bullying.
For the record I’d like to state that while I am antiwar, I am not anti-military. Thus while I would not allow military recruiters in public high schools beyond posters and occasional presentations, I would require all colleges that accept federal money to have ROTC programs. We want the officer class to reflect population in its diversity. To the voices from my Quaker pacifist past that ask wouldn’t you like a world with no need of militaries, I say, of course I would, and I’m sure it will happen exactly the same moment that water starts flowing uphill right before it turns into wine. If you want responsible, moral military leaders, such as those above, you cannot say to the officers corp don’t live in my neighborhood, don’t marry my daughters and expect an officer corp loyal to the people.
Meanwhile,
Israeli undercover agents boast of killing Palestinians on TV
Undercover Israeli intelligence officers appeared on national television Saturday to talk about assassinating Palestinians in a program broadcast on Israel’s Channel 10.
Oren Beaton presented a photo album of Palestinians he killed during his time as a commander of an undercover Israeli unit operating in the northern West Bank city of Nablus.
Beaton explained that he kept photos of his victims.
“This is a photo of a Palestinian young man called Basim Subeih who I killed. This is another young man. I shredded his body, and the photo shows the remnants of his body,” he said.
The TV program also featured an undercover agent referred to as “D”, who openly admitted killing “wanted Palestinians.”
He complained of suffering from post traumatic stress disorder and said that the state had rejected his demands for compensation.
NEWSFLASH TO THE UNIVERSAL SOLDIER: YOU ARE NOT BOUND BY ORDERS FROM SOCIOPATHIC OFFICERS. Its simple natural law, how can the soulless give orders to the souled? Some might ask what that would do for military discipline — but that’s the wrong question.
continuing,
The agents, who speak fluent Arabic, are shown surrounded by masked Palestinian collaborators secretly deployed to the area to protect them. The program provided previously unconfirmed details about the operational methods of undercover agents.
The report explained that officers conducted surveillance before an assassination, investigating the target’s friends and classmates.
Agents would even ask about the target’s favorite meals and habits at home, the report said.
In this way, agents would put together an image of the target’s behavior and routine.
Agent “D” said officers would then “seize the target and wait until the commander arrives to confirm his identity. Then we shoot him.”
So how do they pick these enemies of Israel? Are there dossiers of their actions against Israel or of their detailed realistic plans for harm? Or are they merely guilty of having intelligence, spirit and/or leadership qualities? Is it left up to the judgement of PTSD denying/damaged commanders? Is it left up to the judgement of commanders who had gone insane while killing women and children in Gaza all the while screaming NEVER AGAIN!? Israel claims the right to kill their enemies anywhere in the world. How do they select these targets?
I’m afraid that Agent “D” has the wrong idea of treatment for PTSD. It can not come from an outside medical intervention such as treatment for hemorrhoids or bacterial infection. His only route is a deeply personal journey to the depths of choice, responsibility, guilt, and sin. And what would motivate this journey? His own misery — which should not be diminished by psychiatric drugs.
However, if a PTSD sufferer is in such straits that he (or she) is afraid to drive across bridges because he may slam on the brakes and jump off the bridge, no matter who is in the car, then he (and his caregiver) has a decision to make of whether to take psychiatric pharmaceuticals of not. But basically, as far as I’m concerned, what psychiatric drugs do is to give time for “scar tissue of the soul” to form resulting in a lessened, less empathic person — which is not the aim.
The guilt ridden PTSD sufferer (PTSD is not the same as shell shock, but connected to the illegal, immoral wars since and including the Vietnam War and what that does to the war fighters) needs to make a journey of discovery to the truth. The past is not going to change, his superiors are not going to change, the change will be in him. He needs to mourn for failure, where he failed, to mourn for weakness, where he was weak, for impotence, where he was impotent (to affect events). This last also explains the PTSD of reporters and onsite diplomats. Those who witness crimes are also crime victims having been exposed to the betrayal of humanness, of the promise of humanity.
The PTSD sufferer will never go back to his previous life, that world is gone, but he will again be able to stride forward into the future with confidence and anticipation. The sad, troubling memories will indeed visit him for time to time but will no longer own him or keep him in thrall.
Does he need a therapist or “treatment” (which is totally the wrong word)? Yes and no. A “soul witness” therapist, who understands the task is to witness the PTSD sufferer’s own journey, would be very helpful. But a therapist who has no idea what that is would be worthless, actually worse than worthless.
A Revenge Plot So Intricate, the Prosecutors Were Pawns
Soon after Seemona Sumasar started dating Jerry Ramrattan, she had an inkling that something might be wrong.
He said he was a police detective, but never seemed to go to work. He seemed obsessed with “C.S.I.,” “Law & Order” and other television police dramas.
About a year after he moved into her house in Queens, their relationship soured. One day, he cornered her, taped her mouth and raped her, she said. Mr. Ramrattan was arrested.
But he soon took his revenge, the authorities said. Drawing on his knowledge of police procedure, gleaned from his time as an informer for law enforcement, he accomplished what prosecutors in New York called one of the most elaborate framing plots that they had ever seen.
One night, Ms. Sumasar was pulled over by the police. Before she could speak, detectives slapped handcuffs on her. “You know you did it,” she said one later shouted at her. “Just admit it.”
Note the extreme lengths Ramrattan went to to orchestrate this revenge. Sociopaths often live in a world ordered, almost exclusively, by the winner/loser continuum. Many sociopaths simply “can’t lose”, will even say “I never lose.”
I believe the prosecution staff and the police involved should also be evaluated for possible sociopathy.
Vicitims Tom and Jackie Hawks, top, their boat - "Well Deserved" - convicted killer Jennifer Henderson, bottom right, and her ex-husband, former child star Skylar Deleon, bottom left. Pictures: AP
Sociopaths are “outstanding” members of society in two senses: politically, they command attention because of the inordinate amount of crime they commit, and psychologically, they elicit fascination because most of us cannot fathom the cold, detached way they repeatedly harm and manipulate others. Proximate explanations from behavior genetics, child development, personality theory, learning theory, and social psychology describe a complex interaction of genetic and physiological risk factors with demographic and micro-environmental variables that predispose a portion of the population to chronic antisocial behavior.
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My basic premise is that sociopaths are designed for the successful execution of social deception and that they are the product of evolutionary pressures which, through a complex interaction of environmental and genetic factors, lead some individuals to pursue a life history strategy of manipulative and predatory social interactions. On the basis of game theoretic models this strategy is to be expected in the population at relatively low frequencies in a demographic pattern consistent with what we see in contemporary societies. It is also expected to appear preferentially under certain social, environmental, and developmental circumstances which I hope to delineate.
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2.1.3 Sex differences and the “two-threshold” model Cloninger put forth a “two threshold” polygenic model to account for both the sex difference in sociopathy and its spectral nature (Cloninger, Reich & Guze 1975; Cloninger, Christiansen, Reich & Gottesman 1978). According to the model, sociopaths are individuals on the extreme end of a normal distribution whose genetic component is (1) polygenic and (2) to a large degree, sexlimited. [Sex- limited genes, not to be confused with sex-linked genes, are those which are located on the autosomes of both sexes but which are triggered into expression only within the chemical/ hormonal microenvironment of one sex or the other. Common examples include beard and mustache growth in men, and breast and hip development in women.] If a large number of the many genes underlying sociopathy are triggered by testosterone or some other androgen, many more men than women will pass the threshold of the required number of active genes necessary for its outward expression. According to the two-threshold model, those females who do express the trait must have a greater overall “dose” or “genetic load” (i.e, they are further out in the extreme of the normal distribution of genotypes) than most of the males who express the trait. This proposition has been supported by data showing that in addition to the greater overall risk for males as opposed to females, there is a also greater risk for the offspring (and other relatives) of female sociopaths as compared to the offspring (and other relatives) of male sociopaths. This phenomenon cannot be accounted for either by sex-linkage or by the differential experiences of the sexes. Besides providing a proximate explanation for the greater incidence of male sociopathy and crime, the two-threshold model also explains on a proximate level the finding that males are more susceptible to environmental influences than females. Somewhat paradoxically, while a male will express sociopathy at a lower “genetic dose” than is required for expression in a female, the heritability of the trait is greater for females, meaning that the environmental component of the variance is greater for males (8). The two-threshold model thus explains in a proximate sense what sociobiologists would predict from a more ultimate perspective. The fact that males are more susceptible than females to the environmental conditions of their early years fits well with sociobiological theory, in that the greater variance in male reproductive capacity makes their “choice” of life strategy somewhat more risky and therefore more subject to selective pressures (Symons 1979, Buss 1988, Mealey & Segal 1993). Sociobiological reasoning thus leads to the postulate that males should be more sensitive to environmental cues that (1) trigger environmentally-contingent or developmentally-canalized life history strategies or (2) are stimuli for which genetically based individual differences in response thresholds have evolved. (Recall mechanisms 3, 4 & 5 for the maintenance of mixed-strategy ESSs in a population.)
So that’s why female sociopaths tend to be so spectacular — that full genetic dosage, for example, Stacy Castor (https://pathwhisperer.wordpress.com/2011/03/21/ah-those-spectacular-female-psychopaths-stacey-castor-the-black-widow/). I recall a documentary on one woman who convinced her new husband that she had cancer, disappeared for a while, came back and told her husband that his wife had died and that she was her own twin sister, took up a conjugal living arrangement with her own husband, the neighbors weren’t fooled however and called the authorities, who discovered she had murdered her earlier family (a quick search did not find this, but I believe it was from a Kurtis Productions documentary (American Justice or Justice Files) — they have an excellent series of documentaries on sociopathy). Imagine the nerve of that female Lehman Brothers HR SVP canceling my freelance assignment for giving friends some eight pages on how to recognize sociopaths, never imagining she would/could be recognized.
Transsociopathica always said that the sociopathic women he knew were all high in testosterone. It turns out that’s true. (I no longer believe Transsociopathica was who he seemed to be (before I realized this I totally freaked out when his blog disappeared, which was immediately after I had discovered that Linda Mealey and Kathy Krajco had died prematurely), but he still spoke many truths.)
Recall here the words of Herve Cleckley, which I encountered for the first time in the fall of 1980: “Only very slowly and by a complex estimation or judgment based on multitudinous small impressions does the conviction come upon us [in regard to the psychopath] that, despite these intact rational processes, these normal emotional affirmations and their consistent application in all directions, we are dealing … not with a complete man at all but with something that suggests a subtly constructed reflex machine which can mimic the human personality perfectly.” [Mask of Sanity, p. 369]
It took me a long time to accept that MacDonald could be the charming and apparently caring man I’d come to know (or thought I did) during the summer of 1979, and, at the same time be what the psychiatrist Otto Kernberg has described as “an enraged empty self—the hungry wolf out to kill, eat and survive.”
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